Most of us want to get to a desirable solution rather than working towards it. This happens in parenting too. Much as we negate it, it is natural that we expect certain things from our children. Unknowingly we have certain concepts and expect a behavior or attitude from our child. It is the need of the hour to accept that a child may be a product of our genetic make up and yet influenced by some many external habits that make him or her ‘personality’.
Personality of a person enhances with each interaction, contemplation and opportunity. Just as we adapt to a change of job, relocate for better living and also mature with additional responsibilities, children too mould themselves accordingly. Two kids may share a birthday and yet their interests or progress can be varied. All of them are performers but the victory stand can house on three winners.
With time, care and coaching children get to the arena, adjust and before we adjust they are happy with their own contribution. It is important to give them space, lot of love and understand their aspirations. Actually there is nothing that they cannot do. Only sometimes it takes them more time. Siblings develop a complex and once we start comparing them, they lose out on their self esteem. Constant nagging about hygiene, tidiness, homework and fine art performance depletes their mental confidence.
I actually had believed that my daughter does not have the artistic bent in her when connected with drawing or painting. So I never boosted her in the sphere. Once her hand was fractured and doctors advised her rest from other sports that I got her into an art class. Under the able guidance of the drawing Sir and our encouragement she improved and today is a very good artist. Her skill is improving and she proved that I was wrong.