Posts Tagged ‘signs of bad parenting’

Neglecting Child

Thursday, February 25th, 2010

For parents, the child is the most important part of their lives. Most of the parents shower lots of love, care and affection on their kids knowing how important it is for children to get the best from their parents. But not all parents are like that. Some parents show clear signs of child abuse in different forms. For them, paying attention to issues of children care is not so important. Some parents do it because of lack of time and some other because of lack of consideration. Whatever the reason is, it is a sign of bad parenting that can dangerously affect the growth of the child.

When a child faces neglect and rejection from his parents, he goes into a shell and to get his due iota of attention, he starts behaving badly. He goes into bad company and subsequently, every aspect of his life from family, education to social life gets adversely affected. Even as adults when we see no concern from our close ones, we feel so neglected and hurt. Imagine, if this is being done to the kid, how would he feel? How would he cope?

 Sometimes, parents while trying to be overprotective or overly vigilant, treat child in a harsh way. They assume, this is the only way to keep the child disciplined. But that’s a totally wrong approach. Using terms like worthless, good for nothing or burdensome for your own kid is just too wrong. Even asking the teachers to use harsh physical discipline if the child misbehaves is far from any definition of good parenting. Also, what’s the point of blaming child for every misfortune incurred upon the parents? There are just too many behavioral and attitudinal displays of bad parenting. Parents should carefully think about these facts considering the dire consequences of such actions.

Effects of Divorce on the Child

Monday, February 15th, 2010

Divorce is a painful process for marriage partners and more so for the child. It’s a traumatic experience for the kid. Many a times, a bitter battle goes on between the parents for the custody of the child. If not handled properly, this whole experience can leave a permanent scar in the psyche of the kid. Parents should always focus on certain things while going through the process of divorce.

Quite often, parents while going through the bitter and bruised occurrence of divorce, forget to consider child’s well being. Children are held accountable for the mistakes committed by the parents. That’s definitely a sign of bad parenting. Remember, a child after all is just a child. He has yet to develop a sense of his own. He learns things by looking at his parents and their behaviors. His meek eyes will silently observe irresponsible behavior of the parents and soon, he will start going haywire. It’s hard to have your heart full of love and affection during the long drawn battle of divorce but at least, parents can be sensitive and caring about child’s needs of care and love.

One should never push kids to talk about the divorce. Why would one want to play with wounds of divorce? There is no point asking for his opinion or feelings because the answer is pretty much obvious. Yes, he is hurt and longs for seeing both his parents together. People should also refrain from talking negatively about his parents. It’s a bad idea. One of the major signs of bad parenting is when a parent jumps into another relationship and expects kids to accept that person immediately. Trust me; it’s a very frustrating experience for the kids. Remember, a child is very sensitive about what goes in the house and between his parents. Treat the simmering issues carefully.

Behavioural Child Abuse

Friday, February 5th, 2010

Every other day, we come across some news of child abuse. On the face of it, child abuse is one of the most heinous crimes. Child abuse can be of different types; physical abuse, neglect, sexual abuse or emotional maltreatment. In this article we will talk about signs of neglect and emotional abuse in children.

Identifying of child abuse can be done through several signs displayed by the child. One of the prime signs is when child starts showing sudden changes in his behavior or school performance. It can be because of some maltreatment being meted out to him in his home. When parents start neglecting child or stop caring about him, child begins doing things that can attract attention of his parents. Child needs to feel important and no one does it better than his parents. But when parents themselves start ignoring kids because of any reason, child finds a lack of adult supervision and shows signs of sudden behavioral changes.

In case child does not receive any help for his medical or physical problems that would definitely come under the category of child abuse. When a child is overly compliant or withdrawn and always appears watchful, it’s definitely sign of child abuse. The symptoms of withdrawal can occur because child is not getting adequate attention from his family members and especially parents. Sometimes, child also shows learning problem which has no connection with any kind of psychological or physical disorder.

Lack of good parenting is amply demonstrated by the kids through several behavioral signs. One of them is coming to school early and staying late. The causes of this behaviour can range from lack of love from parents to poor treatment received by him at home. Child abuse is a serious issue that must be given all sort of attention. Remember, when you neglect a child, you are also neglecting a bright future and potentially a good human.

Avoiding Bad Parenting

Tuesday, January 26th, 2010

If good parenting is considered good for the kids then reverse holds true for bad parenting as well. Parents with sensible heads on their shoulders can bring up a wonderful kid who will have high chances of making it big when he grows up. Aspects like, child’s education, social life, manners, etiquette, attitude etc are hugely influenced by the way child has been brought up. But if parents have not done their job properly, there are high chances of them being disappointed with the behavioural pattern of kid when he grows up. The thing is, no parent wants to be bad or leave a negative influence on the kids yet we come across several examples of bad parenting cases. The moment baby is born, responsibility of parents start. Parents have to begin from there only because it is one job in which there is no weekend or holiday. Parenting is a 24/7 work that must be performed with utmost dedication and honesty.

The examples of bad parenting can be seen in several aspects of parenting. Parents can disdainfully neglect or abuse the child or they can ignore the child. Some parents display naked contempt even while having disagreements with the child. Neglect and abuse can be seen in the way parents talk to child. It could be an insulting tone, unfair behaviour or public humiliation etc. The point is, all these things can be administered in a much better and effective way.

There is no point arguing with a kid who has limited knowledge about the things. Argument with the kid also implies belittling of the child which can have a far reaching consequence. Child will develop inferiority complex and can develop serious social problems. Parenting should be performed in a calm and reasonable way and that is the only way to avoid tag of bad parenting.

Signs of Bad Parenting

Saturday, January 16th, 2010

Parenting is a major responsibility and no parents can afford to take it lightly. The most important part about parenting is that, parents are responsible for preparing the next generation and there shouldn’t be any let up from their side. Good parents can literally transform and build a child’s future by instilling in him good education, manners and attitude. At the same time, if kids turn kaput, parents bear the responsibility and there must be certain mistakes in the way child was brought up. Parents can actually play a major role in the development of bad behavior and attitude of kids as well. Bad parenting is not a rare occurrence and many parents have been found to be wanting on fulfilling their responsibilities. Bad parenting leads to bad relationships and negative influence on the kid. No parents like to see his child grow up to become a bad influence in society but the seeds of such negative traits are usually sown by parents only.

One of the basic ingredients of bad parenting is lack of discipline. It is the job of parents to instill a sense of discipline in the kids. Lack of discipline in the family will lead to wayward behaviour. Child needs to be explained what is good and what is bad. He should also be taught what constitutes good and bad behaviour.

Another common feature of bad parenting is pampering. Many parents just can’t stop pampering their children. Excess of anything is bad and pampering is no exception. Too much pampering will lead to development of behavioral traits like spoiled, arrogant and extravagant kid. Later on, it becomes very difficult for parents to undo their mistakes. Pampered kids often refuse to do any kind of household chores and blame directly goes to poor parenting. These are just few of bad parenting signs that parents can avoid to ensure that your child grows up properly.